Got into a conversation with a stripper. She said the night-shift girls looked down on her for being a day shifter, because they think day shift girls are too nasty. She said "I'm not that nasty. I won't give head ... in the club." That led me to think that talking about what she WON'T do is safe. Even if I'm LE, she can't get busted for saying what she won't do. But I figure, if head is what she won't do, then hand is what she will do. A few bucks later she proved that hypothesis to be true.

Future strategy: ask what she won't do.

Good idea. I like the way you think.

I think she will do FS too. Its easier to score with the Day Shift Gals as the NS gals have more of a prima donna complex.

Mine won't do BJ ("thats for my husband" she says). But she gives super HJ and the sex is great whether itc or otc.

Favorite things for her NOT to do:

1) "I won't spit."
2) "I won't complain if you cum on my face/in my hair/on my tits, etc."
3) "I won't lay any stripper whiny-ass BS on you."
4) "I won't try to keep you to myself"
5) "I won't stop."

Just a beginning. I left a lot of good ones out there, if anyone wants to add.

Jack,

"I won't suggest you put it on your credit card."

she wont do:
-double anal/vag
-my taxes
-anything for free
-anyone who smells like shit

this could be a real long list---

Great approach. I also know a FS girl who won't give BJs either ITC or OTC, but otherwise...Personally I like to find the boundaries and ask for a travel visa!

All kidding aside, isn't this the same as asking a dancer to tell you "her rules"? I would never do that, and it's a total mood killer for me when a girl starts out by telling me what won't happen. I want to feel like anything is possible. The intrigue of finding out for myself is half the fun. I bet it often ends up including things she would have ruled out at the outset.

I think it's telling you her limitations, and I could see that discussion help to take a lap dance to the wild side. What the hell, anything that breaks the ice or works for someone is probably worth a shot.

In my experience, it's better for her to show me what she will do than tell me what she won't. Actions speak louder than words.

This topic reminds me of the Brian DiPalma thriller "Body Double," in which Melanie Griffith's pornstar character "Holly Body" explained what she won't do:
"I do not do animal acts. I do not do S&M or any variations of that particular bent, no water sports either. I will not shave my pussy, no fistfucking and absolutely no coming in my face."

chandler, what they will or wont at least keeps the conversation on the right topic, keep it wild and see whether they do a few donts.

I was reading an ad for an upscale escort out of curiousity and it mentioned that she won't do anal....I'm thinking WTF..if I am gonna pay $2k per hour then I expect everything to be on the menu!

Gatorfan, I'm sure it depends on what you're looking for. If you're there to find a girl who performs specific acts for all her customers, I can see how it would help to hear what she won't do. That's not my approach.