Think I’m becoming addicted

This is an extremely expensive hobby. Be aware of your financial situation.

welcome big. clear the emotional attachment hurdle, and club interactions can be the best controlled relationships a guy can have. cut the learning curve short by never paying an unknown stripper in advance, and only hitting the clubs with an 'acceptable losses' budget. 40+ years and i'm still addicted.

Most strippers are hotter than “civilian” girls. Plus they look even hotter in strip clubs with the good lighting and sexy outfits. Many stripper look amazing in the club but not so great when you see them at Starbucks on a Tuesday will little makeup on. If you have a girlfriend, or your next one… buy her lingerie and heels to wear like a stripper in the bedroom. Most women will get into it if you present them with the opportunity because dressing up makes them feel sexy. That’s just one way to get the strip club feeling at home.

Most the strippers you see “off duty” look average. Good advice - find a real girl who will dress up and make your fantasies come true - but that’s easier said than done.

Welcome to being a man, where you find your so unattractive. That new car shine usually wears off after a year or two, and clubbing feeds that new shine addiction you are so fond of. Anytime you show me a hot woman, I can show you somebody who’s tired of fucking her. Make sure you’re compatible with a girl before committing to her, because leading a life filled with only strippers as companions is depressing. Love the one your with!

“Anytime you show me a hot woman, I can show you somebody who’s tired of fucking her.” So true so true

once you blow more money than you wish you did, then you'll start feeling regret. For the most part it's a novelty. it should pass. It'll pass faster when your down to only rent money and not enough to afford a slice of pizza. Keep us posted. Many of us are willing to talk you through your cycle as you continue.

Read this, particularly the last 11 rules. https://tuscl.net/article.php?id=58034

$60-80? Bro either your club is incredibly cheap and questionable or you really are naive.unless you do nothing but get a few lap dances, bust a nut in pants and leave you not going far with $60-80. I wouldnt even consider p4p with that. Stay home and save your money

"If my intentions are to have sex with a stripper and then stop going what is the best approach to take" next time you're finger-banging just ask if she's ok with penetration. if she says no, ask afterwards if she knows any dancers there that will. otherwise don't ask again, and either enjoy what she does give you or move on. if she says yes make sure to tell your good buddy DG her name and club.

===> "I think I have found my ATF and am hoping that she does extras." Even if she does, she likely won't be doing them with you if all you have is $60-80 in your pocket. When these girls give up the good stuff they usually expect to get paid with a capital "P." Idk. Perhaps you should conserve your limited resources for fun activities that provide more value. Or maybe find a GF who you find more attractive than the one you're with. Or both. 30 is rather young to become a strip club hound. Usually the pendulum swings more in your favor as you get older and your earnings improve, which is good timing since your civilian options are often declining in inverse proportions.

I agree with rick. $80 is best for a SW not a stripper if coitus is your end game. Save up some money, perhaps learn to get a hobby to distract you and come back later.

Ha.... If you think you're going too often and spending too much money, download some sportsbook apps and watch multiple games on multiple TVs in your living room every night to track your bets. That inadvertently cut down my strip club trips significantly, and instead of spending, I'm up a few grand.

@pawg_lover you're going for a very, very long longshot. When you buy a dance at a strip club, you get a dance. Very unlikely it will lead to anything more. Some dancers feel that they will get the most money out of you by pretending they're interested in dating you. Most dancers, if they haven't been the target of customer violence themselves, know a dancer who has been. If you seem very fixated on them, it can be very unnerving for them.

The strip club can be very addictive especially if you get an ATF. As long as you have a good time and don't spend more money than you are comfortable with or can afford and are happy with that you should be good. Don't let anyone bring you down about your budget. If you can spend $60 to $80 and have a good time keep doing it because that is a good price to have fun at the strip club.

If you feel addicted or feel the need to use words like addicted. No matter what the behavior. Stop it or at least tone it down. You can become addicted to anything.

Strip-clubs fill a niche and/or void – for some guys, they fill the niche of getting some variety; for other guys they fill the niche/void of being able to easily get w/ attractive women that they o/w can’t get with, or guys that don’t want to go thru the time/effort of doing-it in the civvy-world or just rather not deal with relationships and/or civilian-dating. Yeah – it can be “addicting”, especially at-first, or during the first few years as one experiences more and more of the hobby and gets-introduced-to/learns-more-about what certain clubs/dancers can offer. I guess the level of “addiction” may “correlate” with how big one’s need/void is – if you have a hot S.O. and a good sex-life; likely SCs would not be as “addicting” – if one does not have an S.O. either by choice or happenstance, then likely the more “addicting” it can be since as we all know “man cannot live by bread alone”. At the end of the day, strip-clubs are not the problem; they are usually the symptom – strip-clubs are often a “remedy” per se for either variety; loneliness; or horniness – think of strip-clubs as Tylenol for your dick; something to take to “relieve the tension”. At the end of the day one either accepts the “remedy”; or one addresses the underlying reason for going to SCs (e.g. get a hot S.O. instead that satisfies your needs; but outside of this “cure” one can argue that using the “SC remedy” is better than dealing with the “symptoms” of constantly being hard-up or lonely) – i.e. don’t beat yourself up too-much; you’re only human and humans have needs especially a young-virile-man – if you feel a need for what SCs have to offer, there’s a reason for it; and fighting that need/desire/impulse is often a fool’s-errand.

I think many of us older PLs wish we had spent more time with sex workers when we were younger, not less. For many man, it's a living death to become the suburban dad husband that women typically seem to need to be happy. Unless you're an especially attractive dude, commercial sex may be the only reliably-available sexual relationship you can have, that's mutually beneficial. You should definitely save enough so you could go for 6 months without an income. Beyond that, depends on the person. I have a lot of retirement savings. But, in truth, if I had to, I think I could scrape by on Social Security and memories. Like the memory of the escort who deep throated me down past her vocal cords. Traveled extensively to three continents, but memories of sex workers are still tops for me. Just remember that, with sex workers, you do want to focus on instant gratification. Don't spend money you're not ready to waste based on what they say will happen or might happen. And, unless you're the type who can shit on people and still sleep like a baby, don't try to talk sex workers into doing stuff they are hesitant to do. If you want to help them get through a rough patch, get more of their usual services, don't try to get them to do things the find disagreeable. Yes, most strippers try to trick you out of your money, so some feel that means they deserve no consideration. But, believe me, I have seen it, sex workers who don't keep to the boundaries that are right for them are at great risk of becoming major basket cases.