Front Room Community ForumGoing with 2 or more friends to a strip club
started Tuesday, April 23, 2024 6:53 AM
My choice: to go by myself. I've never gone to one as part of a group, party or even to a bachelor party . This is a private world just for me.
Don't, 1-2 TRUSTED friends max
Strip clubs suck for bachelor parties
I'm not interested in going to the more extra oriented clubs with friends. I don't get the group of guys who sit in a group, and sorta pass around a single stripper, even if its just for dances. That's just weird and gross in my view. I also find it awkward to sit and wait while a buddy goes and fucks some girl, or having him sitting out front waiting for me.
But the more party oriented clubs can be fun with a group. A couple people, grab a table and a bottle and have strippers come have a drink and talk/joke/flirt/etc. Most of the tipping is on stage, but maybe grab a lap dance or two. I've certainly been to Scarlett's and Tootsies with mixed groups and had a good time. Tootsies is one of the few clubs I've found that can be fun solo as well as with a group, although it's gotten a bit too touristy and expensive lately. At the same time, going to the really party focused clubs alone isn't always that much fun.
I've got a number of friends who've never been to a strip club alone, and think the fact that I've gone alone is weird. But they enjoy going in groups from time to time. We'll go to Top Golf or something as a group, then hit a strip club after.
These days I go alone for extras, I don’t want people talking about my exploits.
I do have one super degenerate friend who flies into town occasionally and steps his usual perversion level down a notch to comes to a dirty extras club with me. Otherwise: solo.
I still have a couple friends who would probably go if I asked, but we're all at a stage in life where any get-together has to be planned out in advance, and I'd rather just get in the car and go when the mood strikes.
However you have to trust none of said friends will blab about the fun and that can be a rare quality
Otherwise, I absolutely would prefer going alone. I am a monger, not a party-er. I am at the club for the (manufactured) intimacy feeling with the girls, whether during floor-banter or cubicle private lap dancers or further services. I do enjoy my brief interactions with other male customers (strangers), and with bar staff. Further, I sometimes really value laughing about one or another episode, or sharing information about one or another dancer's skills, with a stranger male customer, but I'm uncomfortable knowing more about him. I don't even want to know what car her drove away in. I want him, like all the strippers, to disappear from my life as soon as the night is over, and I reciprocate that disappearance from him.
Once in a while in a strip club I have run into a guy I knew from outside the club. Danger, civilian contact! Generally he, also, would be there solo, probably also seeking what I was seeking. We would not interact much, except to acknowledge that we'd seen each other. For the one married civilian friend whom I accidentally encountered, I deliberately approached and addressed him in order to pro-actively tell him that his secret would remain safe with me if it needed to. He was flustered, but then later said, "Thanks" in passing. I've been good to my word.
I think I would be uncomfortable if I, as a solo, met a bunch of men, as a group, whom I knew. This was a real danger for me when I returned to law school in my mid-forties. Plenty of young boys were in this party town (New Orleans) sewing the last of their wild oats before a humdrum life of predictability. They were often out at the touristy traps, which I don't patronize, but once in a while they might discover my neighborhood club.
They always did so in groups. I always went solo. I feared encountering them. They would be signalling, through group membership, the communication message of, "We're not here to fuck strippers; rather, we're here to have a hooplah noisy time that involves cigars, cheering, high-fives, and male bonding"; whereas I would be signalling, through solo status, the communication message of, "I'm here to fuck strippers, and I don't do this with male friends." The former statement about them may or may not be true, but it is transmitted, and for them there's safety and security in being able to attend the club without much of the social negative sanction otherwise attached to attendance. The latter statement about me is generally true, so it wouldn't be misleading, but I don't want to madly signal it to people from my civilian life. It's the problem of social sanction -- being known in the civilian world as a club attendee has some (perhaps unwarranted) negative consequences in civilian life
It's similar in civilian pickup. If I see a solo girl at a bar I think, "she'll bang the first tall guy who approaches her." In civilian pickup situations I personally only approach groups of women, because I'm not tall. (There's more to it than this, of course. Height is not the only factor. I'm just using it as an example.) Further, I'm not particularly good at pulling girls from bars, so that's not exactly my best scene, I do better at bookstores (duh?), but when I did pull, from whatever other venues, it was likely because I could isolate the girl away from her girlfriends. Groups are defusers, deniers, preventatives. A group is a cockblock. Same in strip clubs -- male groups mean the female will not get to an isolated male. Therefore the following ...
@PAWG_Patrol "with a group of guys, dancers are more likely to approach"
I often find it the other way around, that groups of men will turn off a dancer who wants to sell legitimate dances. Sitting with three men for five songs nets her a free drink and maybe $5 in tips and afterwards she doesn't know whether any one of those guys will be a good investment of her time later. Sitting with one man for one song and then giving him four songs' worth of lap dances nets her a free drink and definitely $120 plus maybe a tip and afterwards she probably has greater clarity on whether or not that guy is good for further expenditures of whichever sort she is willing to sell. It's certainly the case that many dancers will approach the male group before the male solo, for reasons you mention (also for bashfulness, social convention, etc.) but it's also possible that you AND THE DANCER are shortening your own chances of engaging in more of what you prefer, by sticking to a group.
I always felt the dancers approached the group more often because of the other guys, closer to their own age, more fit than I. Maybe they thought the other guys were less experienced and easier to separate from their money. Maybe when solo I look scary.
Bachelor party trips to the strip club were always tamer and less interesting than bachelor parties in a private location where a stripper or two was hired (even though I've only ever been to one where any sex was offered, and that was limited to oral). Also more embarrassing for the bachelor, the crap some clubs put him through on stage. I don't think you're missing anything there.
The last decade or so has been solo only. Which works out fine, mostly.
I've never gone to a club with a girl friend, I mean really just a friend. I've known a few that are more like guys with this stuff. Somehow, that might be OK. That was a long time ago though.
When my wife recently passed away my closet female friend suggested I should date a stripper just out of the blue. I do think she was 50% serious, and we do go back a few decades so I know when she is joking. She's married, however, she would be a lot of fun at a club.
It's the same idea with women. Some dancers hate women in the club, others tolerate them, while some seek them out.
That's not completely true. A few times I have taken a stripper to another strip club.
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There are definitely TUSCLer's that have interesting perspectives or a good sense of humor that I wouldn't mind sharing a couple drinks with, but even then I'd probably just as soon do it at an Irish pub (unless they were offering to pimp out their faves to me).
But on a somewhat off topic note: have most of the tuscl meetups been in sunshine states? I remember the Follies group would have no problems. There have been meetups in Florida and Georgia. The only northern area I can think of is the Detroit area. What’s up with you Northerner types?
I have visited about a dozen clubs with a stripper, but she was an active TUSCL member and a self-described pansexual who liked couples' dances (me, her and another hot female). Other than that, I usually prefer to club on my own. In my world, TUSCLers know what I'm up to, but I don't need anyone else to know.
Most of the time, I go to clubs solo, but I think it's totally fine if someone wants to go with a friend, or as part of a group! I've been to a club with my best friend, and I've been to a club with another dancer. I see friends, couples, and groups all the time in clubs, so I guess I just don't think too much about it. I mean, I might do a double take if someone brought grandma to a club on Thanksgiving, but probably only if she tried to get on stage... :)
"But on a somewhat off topic note: have most of the tuscl meetups been in sunshine states? I remember the Follies group would have no problems. There have been meetups in Florida and Georgia. The only northern area I can think of is the Detroit area. What’s up with you Northerner types?"
We have had 2 Detroit TUSCL meetups. Around 2014 I organized one, and JS69 organized another around 2016.
YIKES, that is really creepy!
I have three LONGTIME friends that are trusted associates (and to be blunt, we all would go down together if someone were to break silence) for these trips. We enjoy the shared experience of breaking free from our civilian life and not answering to anybody but ourselves....if only for a few days.
We walk into the club(s) together, establish a table location.....and then we operate independently from there on out. Do we come back to the table for drinks and breaks? Sure. Do we give recommendations on things we liked? Sure. Do we ask what happened in VIP? FUCK NO, that's personal business! Other than one guy who likes to come back to the table and ask, "wanna smell my finger?"
Maybe he was just in the head?